Be positive - Don't embarrass, insult or make fun of your child. Compliment them.Be Trusting - Let your child make choices and take responsibility.Be fair - Listen to your child's side of the story before reaching a conclusion.Be polite - Use "please" and "thank you". Knock before entering your child's room.Be reliable - Keep promises. Show your child that you mean what you say.Be a good listener - Give your child your full attention.Children learn from everything we say and do. Make sure that you are modeling respectful behavior. Some of things you can do are:Obey laws - Follow rules.Be caring - Show concern for people, animals and the environment.Avoid poor role models - When you see examples of disrespect, discuss them.When you set rules at home, explain to your child why the rule is important. For instance, if the rule is "No TV between 4:00 and 6:00" it is because this is homework time and homework is important to keep grades up in school.Teach your child to respect themselves. Self-respect is one of the most important forms of respect. Once we respect ourselves, it is easier to respect others.
Your opinion means a lot to your child. If you believe your child can succeed, they will believe they can as well.Build their independence. Give them responsibilities as soon as they can handle them.Help them set and achieve goals. Their self-respect will skyrocket when they see themselves achieving those goals.Encourage honesty. Let your child know that they may be able to fool some people, but they can't fool themselves. There is no pride in stealing, cheating, or lying.Most importantly, show love! Say 'I love you" often and give plenty of hugs and kisses.If your child makes a mistake, remind them that they are still loved.Age affects children's respect. Children and adults deserve respect at every age. Here is a guideline based on age:Babies - They are too young to show respect but when you meet their needs, they learn to trust you. This helps as they get older because respect for authority is based on trust.Toddlers - They are old enough to learn to say "please" and "thank you".Preschoolers - This is a good time to teach rules and consequences.Elementary age - They show the most respect for adults who make fair rules. It helps to let them have a say in the rules that they are expected to follow.Middle and High Schoolers - Allow them to show independence, such as clothing or hairstyles, but make sure you have guidelines. They will appreciate the respect you are showing them. We respect you and the incredible job that you have, being a parent.Have a great day!Steve McChesneySteve and Lisa McChesney publish and produce a daily self-esteem and self-confidence building newsletter for both children and adults. Lisa is a Public School Teacher and Steve manages three karate schools. Visit them at http://www.bullyfreekids.com
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